Way To Check in With Your Significant other This Valentine's Day

If you need a reminder Valentine’s Day is coming up,

this is it

. I know, you’re stressed about: politics, finances, Covid and anything else life is throwing at you. But this year, more than any other time, your partner

needs

to know they’re loved. I know people can handle just about anything if they have a loving, supportive and kind partner to help them carry the loads. And if we need help figuring out how exactly to do that, maybe couples counseling is the solution. But how do you check in with your partner during a year like this? How do you make them feel special when you can’t really go anywhere or do anything? How in the world can you bring the romance without a dinner reservation? I’m here to help you out.

 Make a Special Meal Together

You don’t know how to cook? That won’t stop the romance or the fun. There are so many cooking youtube videos it’s impossible (almost) to ruin this. Pick your partner's favorite meal and then grab the ingredients and have fun seeing what happens. Cooking together when there’s no interruptions or phones, and you have all night to get it right means you're making memories and letting your partner know that they’re worth your time and effort - and that equals a great Valentine’s Day.

Have a Photoshoot Together

Okay, stop laughing, but this one will get you a lot of points. Trust me. Pick three different locations, grab a buddy who might know what they’re doing with a camera and plan the day around it. At each location you can bring out flowers to add a romantic touch to the pictures. At another location, how about a new pair of earrings or a necklace? If your partner is male, how about a fedora to add a little class and style to the shoot? Maybe a new tie or shirt? You can get really creative here depending on your partner's style and their love language. Maybe at the last location, pull out a little heartfelt love note, and I’m telling you, when the photographer catches their expression after reading it . . . you’ve got yourself one memorable Valentine’s Day.

Make an appointment for Couples Counseling

Uh . . . what? Couples counseling? How is that romantic for Valentine’s Day? Well, let me tell you. Letting your partner know that they mean everything to you, and that even if there are problems and issues, you want to make this work - could mean that your relationship could be ten times better then it was before. And don’t we all want a loving, supportive and safe relationship to be in when everything else in the world seems to be falling apart? But here’s the key. No blame and no shame.

Let me walk you through it. Find the best card for your partner and write the time and date of your appointment at the bottom.  You could use this as an example: Babe (pick your pet name), You mean everything to me. Let’s meet with (fill in the blank) and try couples counseling. I want to be the best partner for you and I know this can help us break through some barriers and issues we’ve been having. And then wait for the hug and kiss and okay, maybe a few tears. Good luck, my friends, and remember that making your partner feel loved and cherished is one of the most important things you can do this year.